Thought for the day twelve

Attaining mental peace is a great achievement. It is most sought after ‘matter’ in human being’s life. We are all always will be in a state of restlessness which seems perpetual. Some of the rules (which we have to build ourselves) and follow to gain the peace of mind.

We should not poke our nose in others’ lives

We often tend to push ourselves forcefully into other people’s affairs by interfering. That too we do it too many times. We do like that since we are sure that our logic is the best logic. If we tell someone that they should follow us, they have to follow our advice because we know the best. The worst part is that those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and pulled to come to the right direction which is the direction we are showing!

If we show such an attitude denies the existence of individuality. The nature (or God) has created each person with a specific purpose and in a unique style. No two individuals can think in the same way or act in the same style. There is something called brain and heart in each person which prompts the individual to behave that way. We have to mind our business. Then we will have peace.

There are people in this world who are really good. They give advice to the person when the person comes to them seeking help. The best way of giving suggestion is to probe the person who is seeking help. Asking him the relevant questions, trying to get solution out of them. The replies given by the seeker should give him/her enough stuff to take care of their problems. There is actually no need to ‘impose’ our ideas on them. The real counselors do that way.

But there are people. You can call them pain in the neck. They always create such a situation that you won’t be able to see straight (because of the pain in the neck!). Instead of doing helping the help seeker, they will start telling, “If I were you, I would have done like this... instead of like that”. This not only does not give the seeker of help any assistance, it even confuses the person.

Such people are not welcome by anyone. If you see from the point of view of that person, he won’t be happy at all. When? When you decide not to follow his directions. This makes the person lose his peace of mind.

His words did not work. He is ignored. He doesn’t like it.

There are many people in the world who give free advice. May be there is some stuff in some of the advices; but in general, very bad advices are given by them.

They won’t care to understand the other person’s position. They won’t be able to tolerate if they are ignored.

We may love them, which they like. We may hate them which means we think of them. This is also acceptable to them. But, if we ignore them, they become sad, go mad, act bad.

Funny people. They can live comfortably. They don’t want to do that. They want to poke their nose where it is not required. They interfere unnecessarily. Get hurt if their ideas are not implemented by others. Lose their sleep over the ‘disappointment’ and their peace goes into pieces.

Best advice for them is ‘if you want your peace of mind to be intact, better keep your advices to yourself and leave the others alone’.