Thought for the day seventeen

Change yourself according to the environment

If you try to change the environment single handedly, the chances are you may fail. Instead change yourself to suit the environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has remained unfriendly for you, will mysteriously appear to be congenial and harmonious.

This is a very beautiful thinking. One finger if raised, it is easy to break. If we keep all the fingers together, it is unity. As it is said, unity is strength.

When you enter an office and you find lot of unwanted things around. You can’t take a chance and try to wipe out the whole of unwanted things immediately. You have to keep watching and studying the environment. You should get merged in the environment.

You may think of chameleon the way it changes its color to suit the environment. May be this is a bad example. Then we can think of another one.

The soldiers in a battle. If they are fighting inside the forest, they wear green colored clothes and they would use plants to cover themselves up. If they are in the desert, then sand-colored uniform is being worn. The camouflage is complete.

The same way in the office. We just should get merged in the atmosphere of the office. The people \around you will consider you as one of their own. This means first step of your battle is won.

The people become friendly. Once they are congenial, they would give an ear to any good advice. Once they give a thought about your advice, probably they would adapt to the new idea. This makes you win the war.

The typical and first behavior of a human being is resistance is to show the resistance. Whether the new idea is good or bad, he doesn’t care. He does not want any change. It is almost like an animal which is caught in a town and let out in the jungle. The animal senses danger, uneasiness when it enters the jungle first. It is a natural reaction. Once the environment is studied, the animal becomes friendly with the environment.

When the change what we are looking for does not happen, then we lose sleep. Our peace of mind is shattered.

The best way is to keep calm and think. Do we really want the change to be brought out? Will it just help me or the complete system? Are we desperate to bring out the change? Can it wait? Can there be a chance of having a via media option?

We need to analyze every one of the above and tread forward carefully. We do not know how the others behave? Would we have behaved in the same way if we were at the receiving end?

Sometimes we force others to change because we want them to be how we want them to be.

This is a very serious thing. If the other person also thinks the same way, then there will be a clash. A lot of bad blood will flow out. It leaves a bitter taste in the mouth.

We start thinking, oh, I should have spoken like this, I should have sent a mail like this etc., so as to be on top of the situation.

We need to see the same people again the next day. If the other person turns his face on the other side or if that person ignores us pointedly, our blood boils. The vicious circle of uncomfortable feeling continues thus ruining a perfect day.

Let us be more flexible to change ourselves to suit the environment.