Do not be jealous
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace
of mind. We know that we work harder than our colleagues in the office but they
get promotions, we do not. We started a business several years ago but we are
not as successful as our neighbor whose business is only one year old. Should we
be jealous? No, remember everybody’s life is shaped by his previous karma that
has now become his destiny. If we are destined to be rich not the entire world
can stop us. If we are not destined no one can help us either. Nothing will be
gained by blaming others for our misfortune. Jealousy will not get us anywhere,
but will only give us restlessness. This restlessness will lead to loss of
peace of mind.
The above paragraph is a loaded one. I read it somewhere and
using it here. Thanks oh, the original author!
We can analyze each sentence and bring out our own thoughts.
We will start from the beginning. The first sentence first.
Jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. The best example is in the epic of
Mahabharat. The prince Duryodhana, though is in a good position due to the
reason that he is the son of the monarch Dhritarashtra, was very jealous of his
cousins, the Pandavas.
It is not that Duryodhana was a lesser warrior. He was a
very great warrior. But he found that his five cousins were having extra power
by which they were more popular. Actually it is not so. They were good in
behavior with the elders. This gave them an edge. So, Duryodhana was never in
peace with himself. He did not allow anyone to be peaceful!
We need not be jealous of others. There is a saying Jogi
gets what he gets and Bhogi gets what he gets.
We feel we work harder. But our colleague who is not at all
seemed to be working will get away with all the promotions. The ugly head of
green eyed monster will lift its head. In many of the cases we would not be
able to see what the other is doing. So, the assumption that we are good and
the other is not good carries for a long time in our mind. Here we have to give
a try to feel good about others. So what if he has got the promotion? May be he
deserves it. If we have this feeling, probably we will be retaining our peace
of mind. There is a factor called luck. That also plays a main role in this.
Take the case of doing business. We see some of them
struggling for years and still not getting the required results. Some other
person who started the business recently sees the success. How is it possible?
Simple. There is a saying that planning is 90% perspiration
and 10% inspiration and there are people who tell the reverse too.
The person, whom we see as a new businessman, may have done
a perfect planning. His homework must be really good. That is why he has been
able to taste profit early in his business. Since we do not see this portion,
we feel that we have been cheated by God (nature) and we are actually wrong.
Many times we would jump into a bus thinking that it is the
last bus and hang on at the footboard and travel. To our dismay we see that the
next bus is going very empty!
Murphy’s law! We would not know what problems the other
person has undergone or what extra effort (which you have not known) has been
put in by the other person.
We need not lose our peace of mind thinking about this. This
is something we have to overcome and think a little above this.
Let this be continued in the next article.
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