Trivial reason, serious fight

What could be reason for a fight? Actually we don’t need a reason to fight. Then why do we fight? May be to let our frustration out of our body, mind?

Yes, it is for sure. I have seen many people fight for the most trivial reason. This house where we were living during 1989-96. There was a slum dwellers’ colony just opposite our home. They were in small huts. Due to some mishap, there was a fire and their huts burnt down to the ground.

Under some Government scheme, they got a better place to live. But the water availability was to the minimum.  The whole line of houses used to come to fill their pots with water from a tap which was just in front of our home.

There was queue anyway from the night itself. They used to keep their pots in a queue and waited for the water to be let out from the tap.

After some time they found that their pots got stolen in the middle of the night. Hence the pots were replaced by stones. Each stone used to have a mark!

Now the serious matter. The news that the water has been let out spread like wildfire and all the ladies rushed to the tap, to the queue.

Suppose someone overstepped the queue, the volley of abuses used to start by people from behind.

The abuses not only included choicest scolding, it also included the behaviour of the lady on previous occasions; funnily it even included how bad her husband is, how rude her children are, etc.,

The lady who was receiving the abuses was not going to keep quiet listening to all these verbal attacks.

She used to open her mouth. Her abuses were hurled at the ladies who attacked her verbally and others whom this lady did not like!

So, everyone used to know the innermost secrets of the other ladies, their husbands and etc.,

Many times the oral attack used to turn to physical. It was pathetic to see two of them holding the hair of each other and hitting with empty pots or hands. Even legs used to participate in the fights.

I was wondering whether this is a way of expressing our woes. Really pathetic!

Well, we were talking about the ladies who did not know any subtlety.

I have seen ladies attacking each other in offices. Of course, the talk would be so sweet and barbed that not only the lady at the receiving end will understand; even the onlookers would follow what is happening. After all, free entertainment is fun as long as we are not one of the participants. The words dripping with sarcasm would make the recipient cringe. Actually even the sender of these sarcastic words should also feel ashamed once the anger subsides, if she is having a guilty conscience.

It is very easy to tell, but very difficult to put into action… the vicious verbal rejoinder when someone corners us in front of our own kith and kin. If we keep quiet, we will be branded as useless. If we talk back, we are equally bad.

Well, people are like that.

They love to judge us. They won’t care to see that we may be reacting this way during this particular situation; otherwise, this is actually not our character.

But, tell me, are these people who judge us come to our rescue when we are in serious problems? If so, then they are real friends.

Otherwise, they are just acquaintances and we can safely leave them from our innermost circle.

Oh yes, when we meet them, we can very politely enquire them about their health. After all we are all civilized people.

Right?