If someone speaks to you with anger,
pour the soothing waters of love on the fire
Anger is the second biggest vice
in our lives. As per Hindu scripture there are six vices a person can have.
Lust (Kaama), Krodha (Anger), Lobha (Stinginess), Moha (Infaturation), Madha
(Pride or ego) and Maatsarya (Jealousy)
When we lust for something, if we
don’t get that we get angry. So lust and anger are twins. But if one is angry,
we have to be really calm. If we compare anger to fire, our words should be
like water. If our words become oil or petrol or ghee, then the fire would
become higher and more severe. Anger is even bad for health. When we get angry,
the adrenalin level will go up and the blood rushes to heart and the brain.
The arteries in the heart are
like a pipe. They can take a particular amount of blood flowing in them. When
the anger rises, the blood tries to rush in. More blood than it can take. This leads
to high blood pressure.
In James Hadley Chase’s novel a
character uses a sentence “You look as if you have bust a blood vessel” when he
sees another person seething with rage.
The rage leads to even heart
attack or hemorrhage.
Do we really deserve to die like
this? Definitely not. Probably we would not have even half-finished what we
have aimed to complete in our life.
For a long life, we need to be stress-free.
We need to be keeping the anger at abeyance. Lord Krishna says in Bhagavad
Gita, a person who does not have anger, lust and fear is stable minded.
So, anger is one of the worst
vices.
When someone is angry with us, if
we could calmly talk back to them, it acts as a balm and the anger subsides. Only
a sadistic person could make the other person angrier when the person is
already angry. Or the person may not be sadistic. He may not be able to control
his feelings.
Anger is like fire. It not only
burns the others, it also burns self.
I have read somewhere. When you
are angry don’t ever talk. Better count up to 100. The anger may get subsided
by then.
When we are angry, we not only should
not open our mouth, we should not write any letter or email. Because, due to
the anger we would write down whatever is kept hidden in our mind about the
person at whom our anger is pointed at.
In Kannada language, there is a
proverb, “the nose which has been cut during anger, can it be reinstated?”
We can’t be that pathetic. There are
some people whose second name is anger. The other term for the angry people is
that they have a short fuse.
For many people, anger is
heredity. May be the early generations had lot of time on their hand and they
could get angry on someone, may they had lot of time to get it subsided also.
Nowadays who is the time to get
angry? If someone says something un-parliamentary to someone else in anger,
these words cannot be taken back. The damage is permanent.
That is why the saying spoken words,
the arrow which has left the bow and the days which are already been over – never
come back.
It is a great achievement to get
the right amount of anger at the right amount on the right people is very
difficult. When that is so, why get angry and make everyone miserable including
the person who is angry?
Many people use anger as a
weapon. But it is better to keep humility as our armour and we can experience
some sort of protection.
For people full of anger, we have
to be very calm and smiling (ensuring not to make them feel that we are mocking
them or being sarcastic) and pour the soothing waters of love on that fire of
anger!
If someone defames you with his
words, or insults in anger, shower him with flowers, smiles and good wishes.
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